How To Be More Feminine: The Complete Guide to Embodying Elegance and Sensuality

What Does It Mean to Be Feminine Today?

Isn't it intriguing how the meaning of the word "feminine" or simply how to be more feminine has been completely confused and misinterpreted as something weak, passive, childish or even leaning into hypersexuality?

I was watching a YouTube video the other day when I was interrupted with an ad that was saying that hypersexuality was causing us to procrastinate. It showed how sad a woman actually was to put on makeup and how the things that made her, perhaps, feel more feminine, were actually just a cover for all the painful ache she was actually feeling underneath it (at least that's how I interpreted).

Needless to say, this couldn't be far from the truth. Obviously, there are cases where using our femininity and what could be perceived as cover ups for our deep aches, but I also believe that we've just been misunderstanding how to be more feminine, and instead how use this inherent part of ourselves as a way to step even more into our power, and authenticity than ever.

If you've been wondering how to be more feminine (in all of its glory, not just the physical aspect of it), my hope is that this guide allows you to understand and deeply grasp on to the idea of how connecting to your femininity could be one of the most healing gift one could do for themselves. We'll go over many examples of how to be more feminine in a way that transcends clichés, ways to feel more feminine without changing who you are, and instead, approach femininity with curiosity.

Shall we begin?

Now, what does it mean to be feminine today?

The images that may come to mind as maybe the typical pink dresses, flowers, and perhaps the fragility of it. Or, we could think of rather voluptuous curves, red lipstick, jewelry, and heels. Although femininity could be all of these interpretations, appearance is just the surface layer of what femininity is. Anyone can wear a dress, but if the feminine dress wears you, this shows that the inner, energetic and embodiment work to truly access one's femininity has not been done.

To me, to be feminine has a lot more to do with energy, embodiment, and presence. It's the way a woman crosses the room, the minutie of her movements, the slowness behind every action but always made with intention. It's the way she looks at someone, at the world. It's the way she takes time for herself without finding excuses (because she knows it's a non-negotiable for her wellbeing to do so). It's the time she also takes to be there -present- in both her body, and in time to listen to others in conversations. She is not scared, ashamed, or fearful of her own sexual power either. Of the beauty of her feminine traits. She nourishes herself, and trusts her intuition at all times. She deeply accepts herself and others with compassion. Those are some of the qualities of what it means to be feminine, without even covering the aesthetic of it.

But don't get me wrong. I didn't always think this way of femininity. Growing up, I was the most feminine of all the little girls. I was dancing, singing, drawing colorful pictures all the times, I loved to dress my dolls, play with makeup and learn how to do my hair and nails. But, somehow, somewhere, I had decided that I was done with all things femininity, perhaps around 19 years old. I stopped wearing makeup, brushing my hair, wearing nice clothes, and I went into full hustle mode instead. My work and personal development had become such a priority in my life that I felt completely disconnected from my femininity for about a decade. Although these years taught me beautiful life lessons, and I still deeply cherish these learnings, it also made me feel more sick - on a soul level- that I thought. Yet, I was eating the perfect diet, exercising religiously everyday, practicing yoga, being the typical workaholic and type A woman. There is nothing wrong with having a strong routine and good work ethics, but I was running mainly from my masculine, which left me feeling overall...inflamed. Burned out. And yes, I was resisting all things that were deemed to "feminine" for me at the time.

So, when exactly did I get an epiphany about how I was too much in my masculine? There isn't a specific moment, it mainly happened gradually. At first, I started really appreciating lying down and playing long meditations, and staying half asleep throughout most of the session. Then, I started actually, really enjoying taking baths, almost on a daily basis. Then, the desire to start wearing lipstick again, even if it was a natural color, came back. I then wanted to wear less yoga pants, and more dresses. I wanted to learn how to genuinely take care of my nails, my skin, my hair. All of these came from a deep, inner feeling that I actually had to start taking care of myself for real; not to lose weight or any other main motivations behind our daily action towards wellbeing. From there, I started to feel genuinely interested by my senses; I was obsessed with nourishing them with experiences that felt joyful, deeply good in my body, and that were beautiful and pleasing such as gastronomy, understanding quality fabric, and more. And from there, my energy softened because my senses, body, and being present is my priority.

Needless to say, this transition from living my life in my "masculine" to (while still working and having the same ambitions) being more feminine has been the turning point I needed to finally live a more sustainable, peaceful life. I feel like (and I've been told numerous times) that my energy feels completely different, in the best way possible. I feel lighter, freer, sexier than I have ever felt before. All of this because I learned how to be more feminine.