Last night, while speaking with my partner, I had a sudden realization.
There’s a misunderstanding — not just between us as a couple, but culturally — about what it truly means to feel sensually and sexually satisfied.
That these two aren’t the same thing.
And more than that, I believe deep sexual fulfillment isn’t possible without sensual fulfillment first.
Why? Because to me, the way we nourish our senses on a daily basis is foreplay. The way we sip, touch, taste, breathe, it all builds. It compounds. It awakens something low and deep. And only then, when the body is softened and alert, can true satisfaction unfold.
It made me reflect on how I used to experience sex. It felt like a chore. Something I was supposed to want – but couldn’t actually feel.
Back then, I wasn’t turned on by anything. Not life. Not touch. Not myself.
But now, I understand:
To be turned on by your senses – by textures, by scent, sound, light, breath – is to fill a hunger that goes far beyond sex.
It quiets cravings. It soothes the ache.
Not just the hunger for touch, but the one that reaches for sugar, attention,
more, always more.
So yes, I believe our collective hunger for food, beauty, intimacy, and affection… is really a hunger for feeling.
And only through sensualism do we finally feel fed.
That’s what I believe, at least.
What about you? Did this resonate?
Wishing you a beautiful day ahead.